1. Learn your sexual triggers
Sexual arousal can be a tricky thing, especially when it pertains to which areas of the vulva are the most sensitive and reactive in getting to the point of no return (the point of orgasm). By practicing self-pleasuring a woman can discover which areas of the vulva—lips, pubis mons, clitoral hood, clitoris vaginal opening—are most reactive during stimulation for sexual arousal. Learning sexual triggers is key in a woman’s ability to orgasm during sexual activity.
2. Experience an orgasm
It is a fact that over 70 percent of women do not experience an orgasm during penetrative sex, and this is partially due to the lack of clitoral stimulation provided during intercourse. Many women go through life believing they don’t have the ability to orgasm while others know the possibility is there yet never experience the euphoric experience of a climax. By using one’s hands or the assistance of vibrating accessories a woman can experience an orgasm and truly know what it is like to reach a peak during sex. Once an orgasm is experienced, she will never have to question this ability again.
3. Become aware of your states of arousal
There are several stages of arousal before reaching orgasm, and the vulva, vagina and entire body go through a range of changes. Masturbation is a great way to become aware of how the body changes and to know when an orgasm is on its way. Take the time to relax in a hot bath and explore.
4. Become comfortable with your sex parts
It’s shocking to hear about the number of women who have never touched their private parts let alone can recognize which parts are which. Practicing self-pleasuring is a great way for a woman to become comfortable with herself and to unify with her sexual anatomy. It is important to know the difference between the vagina and the urethra and to know the placement of the clitoris (the clitoris plays a central role in female arousal and orgasm). The key component to great sex is knowing thyself, and there is no better way for a woman to know herself than to explore her nether regions with love.
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5. Bring your body into balance
Having an orgasm brings balance to the body by releasing endorphins, balancing hormones, relieving pain, lowers stress and reduces anxiety amongst other benefits. Reduce stress at the end of the day by setting aside a period of time to incorporate deep breathing and masturbation.
Getting past the shame of pleasuring self requires for one to get out of her own head and come into the realization that she is an adult that is allowed to explore HER body. Be happy, be free and be unashamed!
Glamazon Tyomi is a freelance writer, model and sex educator with a deeply rooted passion for spreading the message of sex positivity and encouraging the masses to embrace their sexuality. Her website, www.sexperttyomi.com, reaches internationally as a source for advice and information for the sexually active/curious. Follow her on Twitter at @glamazontyomi.